Monday, October 28, 2013

Perspective

I was chatting with a friend over breakfast yesterday morning. There's something about meeting early in the morning, in a quiet booth, with a head clear and a cup full to the brim of coffee. Just talking about life. About parenting. About relationships. The ebbs and flows. The dreams. The worries that keep us up at night.

I told my friend that whenever I start worrying about a certain research project, a certain paper, a test, or even desperately missing my boys, all I have to do is think about what we've been through with Jack and suddenly, almost completely, that worry disappears. It's one of the blessings of having Jack in our lives.

Perspective. How can I not brush something as trivial as a paper off? Of course I want to do well and to exceed at school and I will try my best. But in the end? It doesn't matter so much. Having Jack honed my focus on what is most important. Just living. Breathing. Health is something I took for granted before having Jack and nothing will ever compare to the worry I felt as I helplessly watched Jack struggle to live.

Being four years out, I can now find the blessings in it all. My perspective is forever changed. Nothing is more important than my little family and our health. The little, teeny tiny hardships are really just a blip on the radar.


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3 comments:

Laura Maikata said...

Well said!

Mrboosmum said...

I totally get this. My career is still important to me. Universities, teaching and research are still important to me, but the stresses they generate seem so much less important than they did pre-Boo. It is a blessing.

Mrboosmum said...

I totally get this. My career is still important to me. Universities, teaching and research are still important to me, but the stresses they generate seem so much less important than they did pre-Boo. It is a blessing.