Thursday, April 16, 2009


I have been thinking a lot lately about friendship. What makes someone truly a friend? Is is the occasional "hello" on Facebook or a get together once a month? I am having a hard time understanding the importance of relationships like that. If we aren't willing or don't have the time to really invest in a relationship, is it worth it?

I am really looking at myself here and wondering if my being pregnant is spurring the development of some sort of personal insulation from people. I have heard of other women cutting off contact with friends when they become pregnant and are much more content to spend time alone at their homes, nesting or whatever. Who knows. I think I am one to just evaluate and analyze on a regular basis and today is the day to think about friendship.

Like most women (I think), I have constantly sought out a best friend. Maybe this is from being burned by people a few times in life. I have always longed for that best friend (besides my husband and mom) that I can tell anything to and actually want to spend lots of time with. I still have not found this person... I am picky! But, I think I need to be. I have seen too many so-called friends speak horrible things behind each others backs. I constantly hear of lying, purposeful hurting, and complaining. When I see this happening, I usually turn the other way and run!

I think it all boils down to this - I want relationships with people who are real and who have the time to invest in a friendship. I want to be known as a loyal and truthful friend. I have never been one to need lots and lots of friends and that is not the point. The point is in the value of a friendship. I read a great book a few months ago called "The Uncommon Women". The author gave some awesome advice regarding relationships. I guess my conclusion is this - I am not anti-friend at this point, but way more aware of the friendships in my life. I have no qualms of ending a bad relationship and I am still on the lookout for true friends.
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Barbara said...

I can't believe my comments on your blog don't qualify me as your bestie! ;)

I'm not making light of your post. I'm sorry that you have had those hurtful relationships in your life. It does make it difficult to trust people.

Enjoy the sunshine today!

katieoz said...

I echo your sentiments wholeheartedly and find myself in the very same struggle.